Uniting Kids wants to support you in
your life and help
you when you are going through tough
times or feel hurt
and alone. This page is full of
information and ideas on
things you can do to feel happier
and to have courage
and strength during challenges and changes
in your life.
Your choices can lead you to positive
experiences, or negative (unhappy) experiences.
Below are some ideas that can help you to make
positive choices in your life so you can be
more fun. These
Positive Choices can
hard times. If
make positive choices you will
create better experiences for yourself.
The cause of
your happiness and
unhappiness comes from
inside of you, in your
feelings. How you
what hurts you or
makes you happy.
Two boys, Ben and Nathan, try out for the
They each love football and
have their hearts set on making
Both boys are told by the coach they are
enough to play on the team.
Ben leaves feeling sad and disappointed. All of his friends
made the team. He thinks about all of the fun he will miss
out on and starts to feel jealous of his friends.
Over the next few days Ben spends most of his
about missing out on the team and
he begins to get angry. He
blames the coach and
he also gets mad at his friends because
joined the team without him.
Ben's friends get tired of Ben being angry. They don't
fun with him anymore and they stop spending time
Ben starts to think that nobody likes him.
He becomes sad
and lonely and feels very unhappy.
Nathan feels disappointed but he knows that
won't change the situation. All of
Nathan's friends made the
team and he is
happy and excited for them. Nathan decides
might try out for the baseball team and
he is picked to join
Nathan finds that he is very good at baseball
he makes some new friends. He still loves
football and plays
for fun with his friends after
school. Nathan feels good and
is very happy.
Both Ben and Nathan were in exactly
the same situation,
but Ben became hurt and unhappy, while
made choices that made him happy.
It wasn't what happened that hurt
Ben. It was
the way he THOUGHT and FELT about what
that hurt him. This is proven when we
see how Nathan
reacted. He chose to think and
feel in a positive way that
made him happy. The
thoughts and feelings each boy chose resulted in
them being either happy or unhappy.
Just like Ben and Nathan, you have a choice in how you
think and feel with everything that happens in your life.
When you have good, positive and happy
thoughts and feelings you will feel peaceful
When you have bad,
negative or hurtful thoughts and feelings
you become hurt and are unhappy.
Sometimes changing the way you
think and feel can take
time and practice. No one else has
to feel your pain except
for you, so if you want to feel better
and be happier,
It's worth the effort!
There is no point blaming someone else if you
because that won't change how
you feel. Your time is better
spent in doing
something that will help you to feel happier.
On the Feelings page there are many ideas
that will help you
to think and feel in a more
positive way. If you are
unhappy, it's your
choice to either stay unhappy, or do
something so that you do feel happy!
Have you ever been angry, hurt,
and felt all alone?
when you're unhappy you
need some extra help to feel happy again.
Above in "Choosing To Be Happy", you
could see how your thoughts and feelings
are what cause you to feel unhappy.
You are thinking and feeling nearly all the
your thoughts and feelings
are inside you, the only way to
rest from the ones that hurt you, is to
Relaxation time, where you
don't think about any of your
Your mind is always thinking and sometimes that's hard work!
When your mind gets a rest, you feel calmer and happier. You
can think more clearly and be more creative.
Best of all though, you will have a break from
about the things that worry you, make
you angry or sad, or
cause you to be unhappy.
Relaxation time is something you can choose to
do that will
help you to feel happier and more
peaceful. The best times
to have relaxation time
are every morning and night, and
also when you
feel upset, lonely, worried, angry, or
How you feel in every moment is important.
If you feel good, you are happy.
you feel bad, you are unhappy.
You can choose to change your unhappy feelings
happy feelings. You don't need to
other people to treat you
what you want so that you can feel
can look after your feelings yourself. Sometimes
other people don't know what
you want or need.
you don't feel good
then you can choose to do
what you can, so that you
do feel good.
There is no right or wrong way to feel. It's
you are hurting,
just as it is
ok to feel happy when you are
The difference is, your life is
happier when you
There will always be things that happen in your
hurt you. That's why learning some positive ways of facing
challenges and managing your feelings can be helpful.
Sometimes things happen that make you feel
For every feeling that hurts you,
there is a positive
feeling within you that
will help you to feel happier.
By identifying how you feel, you can find
change your unhappy feelings
into positive and
The Feelings page can help you to do this.
Remember that you are loved
and you are never alone.
There is always someone who can help
you or guide you.
Reach out and ask for help when you need it, and if
else needs help, always be loving and supportive.